Why do people sit on dating sites? Someone is lonely and looking for friends, another aim is to gain finally his love, while others simply want adventure and short links without obligation, if not ... picked up their sponsors. For the modern man goes online most of the time, full of meetings, partings, discoveries and disappointments.
It is important that the World Wide Web has helped diversify the real life, and not replace it with the virtual. In reality, however, is not so important where you met your soul mate: the subway, in a restaurant, in the library, on the Internet, it is important that you have it still found among the seven billion people on our planet. How do you help yourself in search of the elect, what are the rules of dating on the internet?
My first experience of online dating was quite successful, I lived with a nice man for two years and even had nearly jumped out to marry him ... In fact, the history of happy couples who have found each other on the internet numerous, than nothing wonder - just think for how much time you spend on social networks and pages while surfing ... Successful meetings a lot to you and perepalo little female happiness you just go online and arm themselves with useful information, such as the five most blunders online dating.
Terms of dating on the Internet: 5 major "errors"
- Do not embellish information about yourself when arranging to meet a man not to disappoint, and along with yourself, when you see the face of alleged beau dumb question "where is the relaxed beauty, with which we corresponded?". Honestly and in detail (within reason) fill in the questionnaire "About Me", without neglecting the refinement of growth. Specify your external data (at least in general terms), your interests and preferences. This not only saves on many issues, but immediately give a common ground, common themes and interests.
- Do not make a very long list of demands to the chosen one, the more the points and seriously-melancholy tone. Remember that nobody is perfect, and you as well. Fall not in the presence of three higher educations with sports category and knowledge of four languages. Pretty stupid sift men of color of eyes and hair ... Who knows what you plan Fate? Do not be boring either pragmatic or overly romantic dreamer, in general terms, specify that you are attracted to people whom and for what purpose you are looking for.
- Do not forget to put in addition to its questionnaire at least one or two pictures (eg, portrait photo and full length). Psychologically pleasant to communicate with a person, knowing him in the face, especially if it is you still like it. Pick medium photo, not a perfect job editor Photoshop, will give you a picture where you are and do not recognize themselves.
- Do not use predefined text messages. Even a limited amount of your free time will not be an excuse if you send all in a row the same welcome message. You're hoping that your potential prince did not, why do so must do it darling? Use a personal approach, show originality in getting acquainted better with fewer words, but let them be their own and different. Chances to stand out from the crowd and increase interest immediately.
- Do not be too pushy! Do not overwhelm new friend messages (you say it - you give him ten), so you risk a man will soon get bored, or just scare her head. Do not sleep and sending messages so that one thought is divided into several or just your questions / answers you are given at a rate such that the other person did not have time to them is not that digest, but just read.
- When communicating on the network there is no physical contact between people, why men and women behave more relaxed than in real life. But do not forget about some of the rules of propriety. This includes not only the control of the lexicon, but also reckless habit some girls to give out too much personal information about yourself prematurely. You've never seen - whether to tell when you've had sex last and how much you have changed partners? In moral standards should be introduced and the recommendation is to communicate, not make for all correspondence with someone interrogation.
The long-awaited meeting according to the rules of successful online dating
Ideally, the first meeting of the initiative must come from men, but ... it's completely optional, if you are able to offer the other party to cross offline naturally and unobtrusively. Choose a neutral territory - a cafe, a park in good weather in the summer, where you will be able to communicate freely. Extra caution does not hurt - no trips to visit the very first (and second) date, crowded places in the daytime are most preferred.
Tighten as much hurry, with the first date is not necessary. In the first case of interest to you as the opposite sex may begin to fade, and you just can seamlessly migrate from the category of "potential girl" to "mate correspondence" leave that changing now-familiar form of communication will be very difficult. But in the second case, you run the risk of pre-learn too little, seem too concerned, though in some acquaintance and simply squander wasting your precious time.
5 rules of successful online dating
Sometimes, even if filled with a few items in the questionnaire, you can already understand something about a person by what items he singled out and that the answers. If little information - it may indicate that the person is not set up very seriously and not give other information to reflect on itself. If too much information, there can be other extreme - the man loves his "I", is ready to talk about it a lot and everything. Perhaps you are not ready to listen to it all.
- Pay attention to literacy
All of us on the Internet use different cuts, etc. But, when it comes to dating, the person who wants to leave a good impression about yourself, take the trouble to look into the online dictionary. Some errors can be ignored, but if in the questionnaire a lot of mistakes and typos - that person is likely illiterate and, at the same time, pleased with this circumstance.
- Trust your inner voice
Sometimes it happens that people somehow deter or repel us, and the reason why we sometimes can not even be called. Just "that something is not right." In this case you should trust your instincts and switch to communicate with other people.
- Avoid married / married candidates
If you are looking for frivolous chat and you do not care status of a person, ignore this advice. However, for those who are serious this topic is. Sometimes married people do not hesitate to mention his "interesting" marital status directly in the questionnaire. Carefully read the form. If the status indicated "free / free" man in marriage can be calculated according to how often it online as regularly and as he suddenly disappears during intercourse. If in doubt, you can ask the right (which, unfortunately, does not always guarantee an honest answer), as well as see para. 5.
- Be yourself and respect others
Behave naturally, remember that your sense of humor can be very useful, as long as people understand the meaning of your jokes. Respect interlocutor. If a person does not suit you and you have decided on a solution, let him understand politely. It is not necessary to get personal, if the communication has failed. Some people are just waiting for the next opportunity to pour on someone his aggression. Spoiled the mood you absolutely nowhere.
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